Reality Check
Can I just say I have no fucking frame of reference for how kinky I am? I overestimate other people's kinkiness all the damn time, and I underestimate my own. I guess I never repressed my own desires,...
View ArticleLife Lessons I Learned From Kink
1) If you don’t ask for what you want, you’ll never get it. No one else can read your mind, understand your desires, or negotiate your salary unless you fucking speak up. I’ve learned this the...
View ArticleSex Toy Review: Queer Porn
In the last few weeks, I've had a lot of conversations about porn, specifically with queer friends who find the dearth of quality porn to be a bit heartbreaking. I've never had a huge interest in porn,...
View ArticleSex Toy Review: Jenna's Velvet Jewels
Jenna's Velvet Jewels Royal is a plastic traditional vibrator with some extra bling. It's sleek and simple, made of black velvet-like plastic, and shaped like a dildo. It measures a respectable 6 1/2...
View ArticleA Note on Sex Toy Reviews and Language
When I came home from San Francisco and finished writing the most recent sex toy review for Eden, I had a bit of a conundrum. I've been writing sex toy reviews intermittently for at least six months,...
View ArticleTrans Day of Remembrance
Some of my closest friends are trans and/or genderqueer. A handful of my lovers have been trans and/or genderqueer. I can't imagine what I would do if one of them was violently attacked, or worse,...
View ArticlePleasurists #157
The lovers are crazy by tasteofomiWelcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. If you like what you see and want more of it be sure...
View ArticleAll of the Lights
I can feel her tensing up. It's incredibly subtle, but my complete focus is on her body. Her legs are spread wide across my bed, lower back arched, shoulders and braids burying into the pillows. My...
View ArticleEven if the Sky is Falling Down
I've walked by the shop a number of times. It's a small storefront in the French Quarter, sandwiched between on one of the less notable side streets. The sign proclaiming "Erotic Cakes and Toys" takes...
View ArticleHoligays
I feel like I've been on a fucking mind-blowing streak since I came back from San Francisco. All I do is win. I'm waiting for the fall out, for the other shoe to drop, but I'm totally ok with the fact...
View ArticleSex Toy Review: Rock Star Janis
Eden Fantasys sex toys provided the Rock Star Janis vibrator to me for free, in exchange for an unbiased review. I started off pretty skeptical about the Janis. As I've explained before, I find...
View ArticleShow Him What I've Got
(photo credit unknown, posted by Sex in the Suburbs, a sex ed group in Washington that appears to be part of the excellent Our Whole Lives - OWL - sex education program from the Unitarian Universalist...
View ArticleSex Toy Review: Bubblies the Pop
It's Valentine's Day! So, naturally, I'm reviewing a sex toy. What else would I want to do today? I'm actually not a huge fan of Valentine's -- It's a bit overplayed for me, and I believe love should...
View ArticleLife is a Mystery
We were playing truth or dare at the St. Patrick's Day Parade the other day, as we are often wont to do, and a friend leveled an impossible question at me: "What's my best sexual experience?" She might...
View ArticleWhen the New World is Revealed
It's the lull between Jazz Fest weekends in New Orleans, which means the locals have gone back to work even though the city is still full of visitors. There's an anticipation in the air as I slog...
View ArticleShake It Off
Once upon a time, there was a person with a crazy week.On Monday, she was told the state department chair had suggested her program for cuts by the legislator, which would mean 5,000+ children would...
View ArticleHallelujah
Somehow this blog keeps getting read and read and read, even when I am so painfully absent, even when I am basically non-existent. I can't explain it. I can't begin to understand it.But thank you.The...
View ArticleBack to Black
She slides her arm around my waist and pulls me in to whisper into my ear. "Come home with me." I vaguely register this thought. There's something about the darkness of the bar and the shadows of...
View ArticleI Think I Could Understand
I'm perched on the bench, half naked, sunburned, and sandy. I'm not really sure what the protocol is this house. Do we group shower? Do I race everyone who is staying here to their bathroom? Do I...
View ArticleNo Matter How They Tossed the Dice
I used to think lists and written goals were silly, an overly bureaucratic waste of my time. I'm not really sure when this changed, but I find that I am so much more focused and self-aware when I set...
View ArticleOh, Please, Mister Father Tree
I wrote this story years ago, maybe when I was in high school, maybe when I was in college. It's hard to tell, because I write stories and leave them in poorly marked, unspecified files for myself to...
View ArticleYou Could Run a Red Light
My lips are buzzing with the friction of pressing against hers. I wish I hadn't stayed so late. I feel the pull, the need to write. But it's freezing. I hate the cold. I hate the idea of going home...
View ArticleIt Rode Us All the Way Down to New Orleans
My favorite things in the NOLA interwebs as of late:"New Orleans on Saturday night, the Big Easy at her best. Her French Quarter shines all the way to orbit." -Commander Chris Hadfield, Canadian...
View ArticleThey Told Me to Take a Streetcar Named Desire
This is incredibly interesting, and I definitely think she is on to a lot of good stuff here. If you've ever struggled with balancing sex, romance, and security in a long-term relationship (see:...
View ArticleLandslide
"Do all of your friends date each other?"I have to think about the answer to this question, because I'm not really sure what to say. Does it seem like this from the outside? Probably. Is it hard to...
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